Dating Advice
Are you looking for friends, a partner you might grow to love? Already met somebody you want to see more of, but who doesn't feel the same way about you? Perhaps you prefer the company of your own sex? Or it may be that your marriage has already floundered in a sea of hope and appears to be heading for the rocks, your partner incapable of understanding you.
To win someone's heart, you don't have to be the most popular person on the campus, the most beautiful woman/handsome man around. Los Angeles is reputed to do more nip and tuck operations than anywhere else in the world and you can take your pick (no pun intended) of: surgery to alter the shape of your chin, lift up your forehead, get rid of the bags under your eyes, or the collagen on your thighs; procedures to fatten or thin your lips; a botox session for your face and augmentation of your breasts. Judging by the number of Dolly Parton look-alikes in LA this appears to be the most popular method of winning your way to a man's heart.
Why go in for these expensive nose and other jobs that some fashion writers so subtly recommend you wonder if they run plastic surgery clinics as a sideline? Unless there is a really radical problem or disability, ignore these appeals to your ego. If you feel good and attractive in your own eyes, other people will think the same - no need to visit surgeons to disguise the fact that you've been circumcised (don't ask me how or why it's done), pin your ears down, change your nose, puff out your lips, enlarge/reduce your breasts, or perform other miracles . . . for a price.
With a bit of luck thrown in for good measure, it is always possible, if you know yourself and what you want, to meet somebody whose company you enjoy so much that you fancy living with them for at least part of a lifetime.
Knowing what you want is the vital point. Looking for a soulmate, a partner, a kindred spirit without knowing yourself is likely to bring you more misery than joy.
Whatever your age, ability and appearance, there are all manner of choices open to you. Knowing what you want does not mean grabbing anything in sight. Such moves are more likely to lead you up the garden path than down the aisle. Flitting from flower to flower looks like a wonderfully sybaritic existence, but winter comes; there is no honey left and no hive either.
The only new beginning that comes from putting your own happiness before everything else, even when an ideal partner drops into your lap (in a manner of speaking), usually ends up as a nightmare, not a dream. Take time to consider this Trojan horse, this gift of the gods, this magical Mr. or Ms. Right who could so easily turn out to be plain Mr. or Ms. Wrong.
